Your essence is enough to open doors

I have seen many people die at the altar of altering themselves to fit a particular mould. They feel that the alteration of their identity is what they need to do to get to where they’re going.

As someone who battled this and went to war with accepting herself, I have just one question for you…

Do you know who the hell you are!?

I am asking you again…do you know who the hell you are!?

Why do you dim yourself because you are yet to understand your essence?

Why do you call your gifts, your quirks, the way you reason, the way you see the world, your personality, your heart, your dreams, your expectations, what you want out of life, your values and the things you hold dear as “cringe”, “weird”, “goofy”, “sad”, “boring”, “unconventional” or “limiting”.

Why do you buckle under the weight of your personal power?

Why are you looking down on the very thing you were given to uplift you?

I don’t know who needs to hear this but your essence is enough to open doors.

You don’t have to change who you are.

You don’t have to follow a known pattern or copy what someone else is doing

You don’t have to go on the same road everyone goes on.

You don’t even have to be on the same timeline or wavelength.

Your…yes, YOUR essence is enough to open the doors that are meant for you!

At your core, you possess the qualities, strengths and unique characteristics necessary to make your mark. You were tailored already to achieve your highest potential. If only you can see it.

It’s that quirk you hate about yourself that may be the thing that sets you apart.

Who you are is exactly who you need to be to achieve the thing you were sent here to do.

If you can’t see it, let me help you. Let us go back to the source:

Gabor Maté a physician, author and the most profound human being I can listen to all day explains that in early childhood, as infants, we had a primal need for connection, love and a sense of safety. And because we relied entirely on our primary caregivers (most times our parents), a lot depended on whether those needs were met or unmet. Most times, they are unmet, and without that security, we lose our sense of self-trust, self-worth and the ability to regulate our emotions.

So what did we all do?… First, we developed coping mechanisms to deal with the emotional unavailability of our primary caregivers and secondly, to maintain the attachment we so craved, we suppressed our true feelings or needs, we behaved in a “good” way, to gain validation, attention or praise.

The sad reality is that some of us lost or doubted our identity from the very beginning.

Imagine a child, full of questions and a natural curiosity, silenced by a stressed parent. Or a quiet, introspective child who thinks of elaborate creations and wants more creative toys, pressured to be more outgoing. I’ve seen a tinkerer who takes things apart to understand them, discouraged for order and tidiness. Perhaps a child who sings with joy, albeit loudly and off-tune constantly told to be quiet. In these scenarios, the constant criticism or discouragement of a child’s natural inclinations can lead them to adapt, presenting a version of themselves that feels safer or more accepted.

Over time, this disconnection from their true selves can become deeply ingrained, leading to adults who appear insecure, withdrawn, unfulfilled, or simply disconnected from the vibrant children they once were.

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As infants we needed attachment, and we did anything for that attachment, for that acceptance. Without a secure mindset, you will have some people going through their whole lives, forever searching for that acceptance and validation.

But, my babies, the acceptance you are searching for is inside you.

Your source is full of doubt, your source doesn’t trust its own magic because, over time, you have continuously disconnected from your authentic self. You were gifted an identity that was oozing with your essence, your magic sauce. But you can’t see it, it has been stripped from you. An identity that was meant to be nurtured, not killed.

I am an unconventional sociable person, a stoic hermit if you will. I’m introspective and quiet and I lead with my heart. I’m still fun and goofy but I prefer my space most times. Left to my self-sufficiency I can be in my own world and I can do with little to no human interaction so you can imagine every time I think of the plans I have for my life, and my career goals, my biggest fears whisper to me -“You’re not sociable enough!” “You’re weird!”. I used to fear that things would not work out for me because I was not living according to the belief system of the world.

I hate calls, I speak my mind, I will not kiss ass for anything, I hardly leave my house, and I hate pretend network events. I’m all about genuine connections and friendships that blossom organically. I can’t fake it, can’t be somewhere I don’t belong, chasing clients or money. I can read people and most rooms, I listen to my energy before making decisions, and I don’t like attending events if I am not speaking, or it wasn’t somewhere I could learn or gain some type of value. I can’t stand pretend formalities. And you know what? People find me, recommendations, opportunities, offers, emails, you name it. My essence, it seems, opens doors. And sometimes I think it’s my straight-shooting, personable, “blaze” attitude that people actually like. They know I’m real. If we don’t click, we don’t work together.

That’s the crazy part, I have never sought out a client, 100% of them come from referrals. The things I hated about myself are the very reasons the best doors have opened for me. My honesty and ability to read people build genuine trust. My focus on results, not appearances, attracts clients who value the same. Because I don’t waste time with fake connections, I have the bandwidth to truly understand and serve my ideal clients. And it has always brought me to amazing people, opportunities and clients.

There are tons of folks out there freaking out because they’re different. But listen up – your essence is enough. It might just be your unique flavour the world needs. A gift that only you have, that is a piece of eternity you were brought to share with the world.

Your very essence is enough. You do not have to pretend, know people in top places, or change who you are. You are what you need to get to where you want to get to.

Accept and value every part of yourself, including the parts you might not fully appreciate.

The minute I stepped into my power, the real magic happened. Suddenly, everything clicked. I knew who I was, and I moved in my essence. It’s become effortless, almost playful. And that made me so formidable, It made life more fun, and easy because I am walking in the path I was meant to walk in.

I am doing everything from a place of accepting myself, trusting in myself and knowing who the hell I am. One thing I know is that your essence will open the doors for you more naturally than you trying to fit in a mould. When you walk in your essence, the doors open without you having to fight, because that is how you were supposed to walk in in the first place. When you walk in your essence, the people who are attracted to that are drawn to you, so you do not chase, it just comes, and it is always better for things to come than for you to chase them.

Chasing is a recipe for self-doubt and insecurity. It extinguishes your worth. But when you move in your own truth, everything aligns. That’s the power of embracing your essence. It’s not just about success; it’s about living a life that feels vibrant, effortless, and true to who you are at your core.

You need to move like who you are meant to be, and let everything else come from there

You don’t need to know who you are yet, it’s okay to figure it out along the way. But! Find your essence, the natural state of being that you were born here to be…and move, unapologetically from that.