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May Favs

June 1, 2024 · Read on Substack

I blinked and it was June because how did this month zoom by that fast?

Ugh, May. Don’t even get me started.

May was the month of hustle and hibernation.

This month was all over the place. Like seriously, one minute I’m crushing it, and the next I’m drowning in work and existential dread. On the one hand, I can’t deny the progress, it’s almost scary how good I’ve gotten at scheduling and routine. Maybe a little too good? Because honestly, May, you were also kind of…boring.

I’ve cocooned for wayyy too long. Remember that phase where I just wanted to do, well, nothing to the point I was told life was passing me by? Yeah, that lasted way longer than planned. No gym, no tennis, no 5 am walks, no hanging with friends – just pure, unadulterated nothing. It wasn’t even that bad, in a weird way. It gave me time to reflect and well, my brain went to work reflecting…mayhem seems like the better word for what happened inside my head!

May, you were tough. You tested me, pushed me to my limits, forced me to face some hard truths, and even made me cry a few times. I guess that is the whole point of moments of nothingness, the silence is deafening. It allows you to think, and reflect, and you hear your thoughts. And I was a walking epiphany.

May, kept me locked away, hidden. Truth be told this year I have been boring, and monotonous, I have refused to have fun, I have locked the fun side of me for too long she is screaming, and I have lost track of living life while building my life. I have been selfish, I deprived myself of myself.

Enough is enough…and I mean it this time

Let’s get into May favs, shall we?

A Book I Read - Can’t Hurt Me, David Goggins

“Heraclitus, a philosopher born in the Persian Empire back in the fifth century BC, had it right when he wrote about men on the battlefield. “Out of every one hundred men,” he wrote, “ten shouldn’t even be there, eighty are just targets, nine are the real fighters, and we are lucky to have them, for they make the battle. Ah, but the one, one is a warrior…” and he will bring the others back.

My favourite quote in the book

This freaking book is like peering into the mind of a resilient badass! He will blow your mind. David Goggins was thrown every bad card life had and he just kept fighting his mind, his surroundings, his circumstances, his trauma, his limitations, his upbringing, even himself! His life story was a traumatizing thing to read, I don’t even know how he survived that, but he was determined, and that is the true heart of this book. This is a motivational book that will literally have you ready to go to war, go to the gym and run a 4k by the time you’re done reading it. No jokes. It’s the perfect kick in the butt I needed.

Song on Replay - A Sky Full of Stars

Over and over and over again!

The Money Shot - My Current Location

By the way! I’m searching for more end-of-month reflections to add to Monthly Favs so if there is anything you want me to add to the lineup or a recurring question you want answered, please drop me a comment :)

An App I am Currently Loving - Zombie Hospital

You thought I was going to be serious, didn’t you? LOL! Sometimes a girl just wants to run a successful Zombie Hospital and treat her patients. The whole point is to improve your medication and your hospital facilities to turn zombies back into humans. Maximum care, diagnosis and treatment are needed, please this is serious work :). This is 30% of what my time was spent doing in May. In the spirit of sharing, here you go

A Netflix “Must See! - The Ultimatum South Africa

Deep Sigh…where do I begin!!!! If you haven’t seen this, I am 1000% serious, pause everything and go watch this. Now, for those of us who have watched this…How are you all feeling? Because this was unhinged, entertaining, jaw-dropping, exhilarating, nail-biting, hang-on-to-the-edge-of-your-seat good! South Africans brought the DRAMA and I was here for it.

Khanyi needs God and Therapy, Ruth was conned and manipulated and I respect her openness and honesty, Nolla might just be the devil, Nkateko is an abused man that does not know he is in an abusive relationship and calls it love, Lebo is the queen that she is, Thandi…you are in love with Lindile and you will be dreaming about him every time you are with Genesis….OMG!!!!!!

A Podcast that Resonated with Me - How to find “your thing” (or your many things)

Do you feel like someone with multiple talents? You dabble in a bit of everything, but nothing truly grabs you. This is a common struggle for “generalists” – people with a wide range of skills and interests. It can be both a blessing and a curse. But the good thing is that your ability to learn and grow in various areas is a fantastic asset. The challenge lies in finding focus and direction. This podcast was a perfect listen for someone like me, I hope it helps someone else too.

A Quote that got me through the month

Today, I hope you let go of feeling that you have to start something and it will be successful that same day. Life is linear. It is a culmination of small actions to make a big picture. Every day, you have to build the consistency, the drive, the small drops that make a big pond. You have to understand that there will be down days and good days. There will be days of 100% progress and 10% progress but all is progress. Let go of the feelings that you have to be 100% every single day.

A YouTube Video You Need to Watch

What did May Teach Me?

I learned that running a business will have you calling God’s name so much you will literally hear him screaming “WHAT!?”. Become an entrepreneur, launch that company…then watch how God will automatically become your best friend 🥹
I have moved from that space of being so confused by people’s behaviour. Wanting them to see life the way I see life. I have come to understand that people are whoever they want to be, and it is not in my place to even label that as good or bad. Everyone is in their own world and their worlds are made up of dreams, experiences, lives, challenges, pain, pleasures, and mindsets they have had and have been raised in. I have no right to take anything personally. It is their world, just like it is mine. I just have to understand that and go where I align. So I kinda have to move from that standpoint and let people be. I just move away from their world if things do not align.
I learned that I might have a toxic relationship with productivity. I may have cocooned myself into a very hard shell that I cannot get out of, and work has become my only escape. It makes it even worse that I am someone who can survive with little to no communication, add that all together and it is a recipe for disaster.
I study the lives of people who inspire me, and one thing I notice is that they do not play with their time, it is their most valuable currency. They do not give it away, and they also know the cost per every second of their time wasted. Time blocking, scheduling, focus times, having a strict schedule with routines & habits, non-negotiable rituals and a system to review your progress religiously - All these I have applied and my life has changed. I have seen what 6 months has done. Now, I want to see what a year will do for me.
I learned that all you see in your entire life is 1% of all experiences of the world. And if you want to expand your horizon to dream bigger dreams you need to expand your sphere of influence. You need to immerse yourself in lives, experiences, places and people that will allow you to dream bigger and as such allow you to achieve things you actually imagine. AKA Manifestation actually works and being delulu is really the solulu!
I learned that I have come such a long way from who I used to be. My sense of what I expect, what I want, what I know I deserve, and who I am has skyrocketed. It’s crazy. I barely recognize myself: the way I talk, the way I address situations, the way I handle confrontation. I have grown immensely, it is…I am just so proud of myself.
I learned that growth is compound interest. Every time I think I have worked on myself enough, another epiphany comes and I feel like I am starting all over again. But I am never starting again, I am just adding to the existing model, like an upgrade to the operating system of sorts. But wow, so many upgrades are needed. You constantly feel like you are starting again but with a different mindset.

June Intentions

June!! It’s time to completely rejig my routine. I want to build my life, on my own terms. I want to play! I’ve done enough work FGS! I’ve mastered consistency, now I need to find balance. Let’s have some fun in June. Let’s try, let’s push ourselves to do more, be more, feel more. It is going to be so much fun, I can legit feel it

I am so ready to be me again. May thank you, but please don’t let the door hit you as you leave. I keep saying the word “live”, but that’s all I want to do. This month I want to find new avenues to expand myself. I want to live a life so tailored to my becoming that you will have to be more than special to break me away from that.

June is going to be spectacular. I keep saying it. because I know it.

This month, you are about to watch me step so far out into the beautiful unknown and have fun exploring it.

I love this so much.

Okay, let’s go.

Have a beautiful June lovelies! 🧡✨🫶🏽