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March Favs

April 1, 2025 · Read on Substack

Hello, my loves, and welcome to April!

“How was March?”

March was a lot! The theme was truly Big Dreams in Different Mediums (…get it? 😉**)**. I am working on so many big things at once while trying to find balance and serenity…all while living in Lagos. So you can imagine…that is a miraculous feat.

March was the month I opened the first branch of Stamfordham Global in Zambia. I was trained and mentored by people who showed me what it truly costs to build a corporate organization, and it was not easy. I spent three months in preparation. I was asked to work on my personal development and grow thirty years in three months, I kid you not. But, I took it on, with little groaning…👀…LIES… I cried. I wiped my tears. And I picked myself back up. I didn’t want them to ever lose the fire and belief they had in me, and in pushing myself to meet that standard, I started to believe in myself even more. It raised my own expectations of myself, and I am all the better for it.

Then came another burden. If founders need ALL THIS to build, then the creative and digital economy in Africa is behind. This realization sparked a new fire in me. African digital professionals must be ready to claim their share of the foreign exchange pouring into this country and the wealth I know is coming if we have systems, standards, and structure.

This realization placed me in rooms I once dreamed of. I pitched a solution, and now I’ve been asked to implement it. So, you’re hearing it here first…a fair is coming to Nigeria, and I will be behind it.

I learned the power of fear. It is a gamble to do the things that scare you. It is one thing to have big dreams and another to crazily act upon them. But that gamble? It leads to the most incredible things.

I have also been working on my app, Proficio. Gosh, what haven’t I done this month!? I moved so unapologetically. And it all started with shedding.

March was shadow work. Inner healing. It was learning to love, forgive, and develop myself.

I felt called to embark on a three-day dry fast and shed spiritual and emotional weight. When I was done, I saw what happens when you pour into your cup and give from the overflow…it’s true, people gravitate toward you, and I always gave from a place of ‘plenty’. I was present. I spent time with friends and family. I was out and about, vulnerable, always happy. I walked into big rooms full, never desperate. I had knowledge, I had certainty and I never compromised for means or lack

I fell in love with me. I made my childhood self my wallpaper and dedicated everything to making her happy. I stepped into life with no fears, no external validation…just faith. It made life scarier, even made my writing better, and the insane adventures and opportunities it led to? Bruh! Worth it.

March was a season of reaping. A harvest of everything I had sown for the last 13 months.

March was beautiful. March made something of me.

I am more joyful. I feel so powerful, like there is nothing I cannot handle. I am closer to God. I have amazing relationships. I have divine mentors. I am built, muscled up.

I stepped fearlessly, and God aligned it all.

March, I will not forget you.

Now, without further ado, let’s get into it—March Favs: an almanack of everything that kept me going this month!

A Book I Read:

“Alone With You in the Ether”

by Olivie Blake

If you love books that aren’t afraid to be messy, that feel more like art than fiction, that leave you feeling a little undone…PLEASE read this. It’s about love, but not the kind they tell you about. Not soft, easy, or predictable. It’s love that is fractured, obsessive, intellectual, chaotic. A love that dissects itself even as it happens. Two people, Regan and Aldo, so consumed by the way their minds work (or don’t) that love almost feels like an equation they are both trying to solve; imperfectly, beautifully, disastrously. I found pieces of myself while reading and you probably will too. The characters’ search for meaning, the overthinking, the consuming desire to be understood fully, deeply. You’ll sit with yourself when you finish this book.

A Supplement I Swear By:

LAC STEM C, 400MG

It is so expensive, but OMG!!! My skin has been looking like glass for the last 30 days. Listen….the price of this does not make this economical in any way, it was a gift, I did not think too much of it, then I saw my skin everytime I took a selfie and it just looked more youthful…Y’all…

How can I rob a bank to afford this every month? Because I need this in my life forever. 😭

A Podcast That Resonated With Me:

The Modern Wisdom episode with Alex Hormozi will change your life.

My Best Buy:

Nwei by Nenye Abstract Set 2.0, N40,000

I loved this set so much! Will be re-rocking it as many times as I deem fit.

A Netflix Documentary That Shocked Me:

Con Mum, Netflix

It’s not new that the people you depend on the most can prey on you. But his own mother? The same one who abandoned him, only to return and scam him? I was livid.

I cannot believe all he lost because of her. Absolutely shocking…and what is with people lying on cancer!?

A Quote That Got Me Through The Month:

Seeing yourself through the lens of who you were will stop you from seeing yourself through the lens of who God called you to be. You have to have the liquidity of thought and the nimbleness of mind to transition from how you once saw yourself to who you are being called to become.

So, you show up. Even when it’s scary. Even when the vision feels so massive you wonder if your hands are big enough to hold it. Even when the old version of you whispers doubts that no longer belong to you. Because the old me has to trust that the future me exists the way I want… and that I’ll be capable of getting myself there.

Fill the gap you never had. That’s your “why.” Become empirical, living proof that it can be done. Find joy in your story…the good, the great, and the lessons too. You’re the hero of your own story; all you have to do is live it. That’s all you’re here to do.

And never, ever compare your Chapter 1 to someone else’s Chapter 20. Stop measuring your success by others’ timelines. Everyone has their own path, and success is not linear. Focus on your own journey without getting distracted by others’ perceived achievements.

Unsuccessful people look at where others are today and wonder how far behind they are. Successful people look at how those people started. They turn envy into study.

March Top Daily Diagnonsense Letters:

[Tutu’s Substack

I Met My Younger Self for Coffee…

It was time…

a year ago · 5 likes · 4 comments · Tutu Adetunmbi](https://tutuadetunmbi.substack.com/p/i-met-my-younger-self-for-coffee?utm_source=substack&utm_campaign=post_embed&utm_medium=web)

[Tutu’s Substack

i am not your mentor

I don’t know if it’s just me, but the idea of mentorship has become… skewed…

a year ago · 5 likes · 4 comments · Tutu Adetunmbi](https://tutuadetunmbi.substack.com/p/i-am-not-your-mentor?utm_source=substack&utm_campaign=post_embed&utm_medium=web)

A YouTube Video You Need To Watch:

I sat for an hour watching this. If you haven’t, I strongly suggest you do!

An App I Am Currently Loving:

Blinq

Blinq is a digital business card app, but it’s so smooth and effortless that I honestly don’t think I can go back to regular cards…lol not that I ever did. Your card actually feels like you. Plus, it saves me from the guilt of printing a hundred business cards that end up lost or forgotten.

Networking just got easier, and I’m here for it.

The Month in Photos:

…without context, but with context :)

Song on Replay:

…all I need is a restored convertible to drive in while listening to this song 🔥🔥🔥

What did March Teach Me?

March taught me that it’s one thing to have big dreams and another to crazily act upon them. But that gamble? It leads to the most incredible things. In March, I stepped fearlessly into so many big pieces, and God aligned them all, making something of me.
March taught me to think and do. Anything less, and you might lose the opportunity.
It showed me that you can dishonor people, favors, gifts, blessings, and circumstances when you trivialize their contributions to your life.
March taught me to celebrate every small win. You need the morale.
If you interfere in someone’s story, thinking you can force them out of a season, God will leave you with the burden…since you believe you’re “all-knowing”. Sometimes, you feel the urge to step in and help someone through a difficult season, but if you don’t allow them to find their own fire, you’ll end up carrying that burden alone. Expectation and entitlement will fall on you.
The glamorous life you’re looking for is hidden under the carpet of your unstructured life. The people who don’t play with their time enjoy the luxury of knowing exactly how best to spend it.
1% is even too much. The difference between those who are set apart and those who aren’t? It’s not even 1%…it’s a Google search. A little more research. A tiny bit more effort. People either don’t put in the work or don’t push themselves enough.
Sometimes, the smartest thing you can do is play dumb.
It’s not time, life, or money holding you back. It’s alignment. Alignment comes from knowing exactly who you are, where you see yourself going, and doing everything you can to line up the chess pieces to get there. What people call luck is actually alignment; showing up, being in the right spaces, and making the right moves.
The key to your success could sometimes be someone else’s belief in you*.* It shapes who you become. You start to live up to their expectations, gain confidence, and believe in yourself more. It’s not always about ability, it’s about belief. Higher expectations lead to higher performance. And sometimes, that someone can be you.
What is the beast mode version of you? What’s the version of you that has arrived? You don’t have to be that person yet, but you need to see it as a possibility. You need to prepare for it like you know one day you’ll be asked to step into it. Because you will.
Indifference is a response.
You owe yourself the world before you owe anyone else even a reaction.

April Intentions

April, I am gladly riding the wave of March. This month, I’m going even bolder and more audacious. I’m all in.

I have an event to plan, an MVP to launch, and a business to scale, but beyond that, I want to be intentional about who I am becoming in the process. There’s still inner work to do. I want to conquer certain fears, advocate for myself more, and ask for what I want without hesitation. I’m getting there, but I can push further.

I also want to be very mindful of my words. In March, I started eliminating phrases like I can’t, I’m overwhelmed, this is too much. In April, I want to speak less…a whole lot less, and feel more. I want to sit with my emotions instead of rushing to define them.

This month, I’m practicing slowness and stillness.

So maybe that’s the word for April? Centered.

I want to be less reactive, more grounded in my core so I can move with clarity. Protecting my energy is essential.

And beyond the work, I want to continue embracing childlike joy: exploring new hobbies, joining communities, meeting people, and trying new things just for the fun of it. Happiness looks good on me, and I’m committed to nurturing it.

April is about basking in this trajectory, nurturing it, improving upon it, and fiercely protecting it.

Happy New Month!

My loves, as you step into April, I pray over you with all the fullness of my heart. This will be a month of divine alignment, boldness, and breakthrough!

The doors you’ve been waiting for will finally open. You will walk with courage and clarity into the new opportunities that are destined for you!

Your work will be elevated, you will be celebrated in places that once rejected you, your purpose will be clearer, and every step you take will be divinely guided. The favour you’ve been praying for is coming in waves…doors that seemed impossible will swing open for you, and your name, your brand, your product, your application, your offer, your proposal, your service will be spoken in the rooms where decisions are made.

Every moment of stillness, every act of obedience, and every ounce of courage will align you with exactly what you need to step into your purpose.

What you thought was out of reach, you will now grasp with ease. The wisdom and clarity you need to navigate this season will come like a flood, and you will move forward with unstoppable momentum.

Don’t shrink back this month, stand tall, and claim what is yours! April will be the month that confirms all the dreams you’ve carried in your heart. Know that this month, everything is aligning for your good. Every person, every opportunity, every blessing you need is coming into position.

This month will mark a major shift in your journey. You are protected, you are favoured, and everything is aligning for you professionally, spiritually, emotionally, and relationally.. April is yours! AMEN. AMEN. AMEN✨💫