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June Favs

July 1, 2024 · Read on Substack

You know the drill…grab a drink, grab a snack, it’s time for JUNE FAVS!!!!!

I had FUN in June, I lived, I balanced it all, I learned (…always) and I built in June. Wow! June was great! After spending half the year being so serious it really feels good saying this. I truly stepped out of my shell, albeit slowly but I did it. I did things! Me…Tutu! I did not want to be the hermit of April and May, I had fun! I can see it from all the pictures and videos. I was out more. I was definitely not boring, I even wanted to have more fun if you ask me. I enjoyed it, just being this person that did it all. June I was a boss and a beast. I found my power. I sought experiences, and yet, I got the work done…if not more work. I was hard on myself, I always am. But it caused me to do more, find more, and seek more.

I am going on and on, but yeah. June, thank you for giving me so many new elements to work on, as always I love the epiphanies and lessons that came out of it. I love, honestly who I am becoming. Now, I feel like I just need to keep finetuning. Tutu is coming out. Slowly but surely.

Anyway let’s recap, shall we!?

A Book I Read - The Pivot Year, Brianna Wiest

After reading 101 Essays that Will Change the Way You Think and following her on social media, Brianna Weist has become a fav of mine! Her book, The Pivot Year gives you daily messages that feel so timely, almost pre-ordained for that particular day.

I didn’t start reading it right away, because … life … and sometimes I miss days for the same said reason. But it never fails, when I pick this book up, and read the daily meditation - it hits 100% and I’m left with this amazing sense of being heard…by my guides, by the Universe, who knows. It’s down-to-earth, grounded and enlightening. Maybe not for everyone - but if this review landed with you - then I would say go for it.

Here’s tomorrow’s message from the book 👇🏽

Song on Replay - Looking For God

Mannywellz teased this song for so long on TikTok that when it dropped I rinsed the juice out of this song and it has been on replay ever since. I’ve squeezed it DRY and I’m still not tired of it! It’s a soulful love song that just makes my heart smile!

The Money Shot - She is working :)

I filmed something pretty awesome in June and I’m nervous but excited about it coming out in Q4. I spoke about my failures, bouncing back, my philosophies on life, success, the lessons I’ve learned and everything in between. Gosh, it got so personal, and in my normal fashion I am here overthinking and replaying every single thing I said…😬 Lol! I think it’ll be great though.

Your girl is on the way to becoming a Tech Sis (is it Tech Sis? I am just going by “Tech Bro” and running with it). Remember last month I told you that for a year now I’ve been working on a startup? Well, this month we reached a big milestone in developing MVP1 and I’m going to have to announce it soon. Everything is almost ready and if you ask me, I’d rather wait until everything is completely perfected but apparently, that is not how that world works and I have to soon start sharing my journey to building this app and being a Founder to build momentum. My heart beats so fast when I think about this and I’ve never been more scared in my life. Keep me in your prayers!

A Netflix “Must See! - Worst Roommate Ever (Season 2)

If you thought season 1 was wild, you’ll soon realize there was plenty more where that came from! The documentary is as the title states: The worst roommates ever. Most of these true-crime stories have to do with murder and from mental torture to actual murder attempts, these roommates are like something straight out of a horror movie. These unsettling true stories with seemingly harmless roommates turn into real-life nightmares for their unsuspecting victims…pleeease watch Season 2, Episode 1.

A Podcast that Resonated with Me - Find Your Personal Style in 4 Easy Steps

I’ve been trying to find my personal style, colours that fit my skin tone and my own overall aesthetic. I spoke to my friend about it and she sent me this podcast which was a great start. It gives you practical tips for figuring out who you are when it comes to your fashion and finding the words to match your aesthetic and how to expand on that. Highly recommend!

The podcast also came with this guide 👇🏽

Pick three words that would describe your style…

A Quote that got me through the month

Listen, if I fail, I fail, but I will not be the same on the other side of it. In everything I do, I still do not think I am ever fully ready or even able to do the things I do, but I do them regardless and I have grown so much more. Listen, in life, you are always given a mantle to step up and claim, or sometimes it is given to you. The mantle will always change because you are meant to keep surpassing mantles and you will never, ever be fully ready. All you need to do is step up, show up, and let life do the rest.

Every time you step up you are gifted lessons and transformations, you evolve and use the gifts you’ve been given for the next mantle, and the next one and the next one.

Greatness is a journey that you have to be ready to go on. A ride that never ends.

Whether you are ready or not, mantles will be placed on you. If you are not aware, and ready, you will fumble it. And trust me life will test you. It will send you signs, little tests and challenges before that mantle comes. You have to prepare. Always prepare. Always be willing to learn, to grow, to pass the tests of life and not run from them. Then when that mantle comes, you will be able to piece together the way you were prepared for it.

A YouTube Video You Need to Watch

What did I learn/experience/overcome/understand?

I overcame the fear of confrontation, big time!
I am very proud of myself for asking for help in so many instances.
I learned that I give 100% of my attention to one thing. And the woman I am becoming, cannot do that. I have to find balance as I build, really. I cannot sacrifice my health, life, friends and family for work or anything I am currently focusing on. So Balance, as I build is my theme for July.
I learned that I am a deeply soulful being. That I am a phenomenal woman that emanates a light, that is an awareness of her power. And the funny thing is, I am not even fully aware of that power. I do not see myself the way others see me and that, crazily enough is a great thing, because it means that I will always surpass expectations.
I’m so consistent and disciplined now. I continued to show and keep going, even though sometimes I was running on energy that I did not know where it came from, it showed me how disciplined I have become. I show up despite the fact, and emotions aside, I keep going. I remember the Tutu who would run from messages and conversations because life was just too much for her, gosh, she must be so proud of me now.
Everything I ran from, everything I hid from, problems that I thought would kill me or be the end of me, they just were storms I needed to pass, to become the girl that stands here today. I look at some things now, and they seem so small, but I know that it means that the more I press on, the bigger these storms will get. But, I welcome them now.
I learned that I do not have a fight or flight response, I freeze and I sometimes need people to crack me and pull me out of it, or I will stay in my cold, isolated solitude. I freeze when it all becomes too much because I need to process. But like a computer, I overprocess and overthink and I overheat and still do not get anything done. But I have learned that action, action cracks the ice and cools the processor at the same time. ACTION (Imagine after all these years…bruh!). I learned that just getting up and showing up, is half the battle…it helps to melt things much quicker.

July Intentions

I am deeming the theme of this month, “Balance, as I build”. I want to fully step into this life I am building and find the balance to consume, create and build and still be Tutu…in my full light. I want to be a better leader, I want to continue my involution and evolution of becoming. I want to still have fun, BUT…I am intentional about how I spend my time, what I spend my time on and who I spend my time with. Balance, as I build is about laser focus but diverse laser focus. It is about me knowing now that I am on a mission, and becoming ready, trained, to do this. It is about showing up because I know the bigger picture I am trying to paint. That is how I want to show up, the full embodiment of what I am becoming and loving this new ride.

It is knowing that bigger storms are coming and I am entering new terrains but to know that I have been given them because I have passed through storms and now know them too well, so I have to revel in this new challenge, brave the storms and keep going.

It’s about finding that balance to do it all and be it all. I want to say at the end of July, that I had fun, that I succeeded, that I was tested, but I passed through, and I kept going, and I maintained steeze and composure while doing it all. That I showed up and I became more unstoppable, more fierce and reached new heights and milestones when it came to my goals.

I want to be better, in all aspects, from head to toe, from passion to purpose to career to business to what I learn at the end of the day.

I want to come out of this month an all-round beast.

I wish you the same and more and welcome to July Babies!!!

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